tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791957091596445489.post2583589606144680630..comments2023-07-06T22:14:53.227+12:00Comments on Intricate Simplicity: quotable quoteRachhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05264687026620042961noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791957091596445489.post-74965542648631257152007-04-16T13:35:00.000+12:002007-04-16T13:35:00.000+12:00Well Kate....you're one of *the* most open friends...Well Kate....you're one of *the* most open friends I have! I have loved our conversations especially in the past two years. You share *so much* fullstop.<BR/>But at the same time I know what you're saying. This conversation ahs continued with someone else you kno well up here (guess who)...offline...she kindly observed that I have become more transparent over the past couple of years and she wanted me to define TRANSPARENT HUMILITY. Here's my response to her:<BR/>I think you have observed correctly! I decided I wanted a few authentic relationships and knew that they wouldn't just happen without me becoming more vulnerable. I love it and hate it at the same time. In spite of knowing it shouldn't matter what people think of me, and in spite of hating it when people suggest I've got it all together and it's easy for me....I don't actually like being so honest that people know my exact faults!!!! But I think we need to be that open. At this stage I think I am still guarded with who I will "bare my soul" to.....not sure if that is pride or wisdom, leaning more to the latter.<BR/> <BR/>Your question......hmmmm not sure. Maybe that we would openly confess our sins to one another and pray for each other and in so doing be healed (to quote Scripture!). I wonder if some of my battles are because I go it alone and even though we have more people than we can cope with wanting to come for dinner etc, we don't have Bonhoeffer's real intimate community that knows us through and through.<BR/><BR/>Kate and Nikki - both your comments are echoing through there!Rachhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05264687026620042961noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791957091596445489.post-24588340159048772102007-04-16T11:05:00.000+12:002007-04-16T11:05:00.000+12:00"To be really close to someone there needs to be a..."To be really close to someone there needs to be a transparent humility"<BR/><BR/>What a wonderful and timely message Rach (even though I am not a Christian). I do agree with Kate that trust is needed, but then we also need to put a little of ourselves out there to then gain the knowledge that others are trustworthy. I am working on this with my relationships and have seen some wonderful changes in just the past few days - it feels quite liberating and very authentic (but scary too).Nikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15723737293799500326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8791957091596445489.post-818418758792069102007-04-16T10:20:00.000+12:002007-04-16T10:20:00.000+12:00To be really close to someone there needs to be a ...<I>To be really close to someone there needs to be a transparent humility.</I><BR/>see, for me, there needs to be a truckload of trust. oh, i'll reveal one or two onion layers. it's just that for me, friendship is forever, and i get so burnt when someone walks away after a few years when i've shared so much of myself and they know the depths of me, you know? and what will they do with that??<BR/>so i guess i share *so much and no more* (book line, quelle surprise).. and feel my way carefully these days. <BR/>prudent, perhaps??<BR/>and i'm ever-changing. <BR/>blah blah.<BR/>swirling thoughts from moi, yet again. immortalised on the web.<BR/><I>[and that] thought scares me</I><BR/>ok, i'm off to thread necklaces.skatey katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05586048408864521948noreply@blogger.com